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Chelsea & Amber
Spark Mamas founders, Amber and Chelsea, are dedicated therapists passionate about supporting women and families through all stages of the reproductive journey. With expertise in perinatal and postpartum mental health, they combine their unique skills—Amber as a postpartum doula and co-director of the UCSD Women’s Reproductive Mental Health Program, and Chelsea as a Certified Fair Play Method Facilitator with deep knowledge in attachment theory. Together, they empower families with the knowledge and support needed to navigate (and thrive) during this important life transition.
One of the things that we talk to a lot of our clients about is how to protect their marriage post-parenthood. Most of us imagine parenthood being filled with sweet cuddles and heart-melting smiles, and while that’s true, it’s also packed with sleepless nights, endless diapers, and never enough time to talk and connect. It’s not that new parents forget about their relationship—it’s more that it gets unintentionally deprioritized in the face of immediate needs.
An area that often gets overlooked is the romantic relationship between the new parents. It’s easy to lose yourselves while devoting all your time and attention to the baby. But remember, nurturing your relationship is just as crucial as caring for your child(ren).
So, how do you stay connected to your partner? It’s not easy, but you have to mindfully practice and prioritize intimacy. No, we’re not talking about rushing back into the bedroom (although when you’re ready, more power to you!). We mean the ‘share your morning coffee, give a warm hug, hold hands’ kind of intimacy. And, of course, communication. Talk about your feelings, fears, and favorite things that make you feel good.
Building connection and intimacy also involves sharing responsibilities to lighten both the physical and emotional load. When one partner feels they’re carrying an unequal distribution of the household or parenting responsibilities, resentment can build. This emotional strain often creates distance and reduces the desire for intimacy. Just as important in having these conversations is creating time for each partner to meet their individual needs as well (think gym time, walks with girlfriends, etc.). When individuals prioritize their own well-being through alone time, they bring a more fulfilled, energized, and authentic version of themselves into the marriage.
Parenthood changes everything—but it doesn’t have to come at the expense of your relationship. Small, intentional moments of connection with each other (and yourself!) will keep your partnership strong.
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Strengthen your relationship as you go from partners to parents with this exclusive Spark Mamas Postpartum Planning session. Together with Amber or Chelsea, you will create a tailored postpartum plan focused on nurturing and protecting your mental, physical and relationship health.
Bond with your partner while learning pregnancy safe massage techniques for that can be practiced at home. This is wonderful date night idea and a great opportunity to support the birthing person throughout pregnancy, birth, and postpartum.
Need a date night but don’t want to leave your kids with just anyone! Please don’t! Hire the best with Bloom Care and get matched with caregivers that are interviewed and screened through TrueLine. Your relationship will thank you!
